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When someone dies 

All Saints is a Parish Church and we are there for everyone at all the main events of life and death. A Church of England Funeral is available to everyone. 

We give you support before, during and after the service and for as long you feel it is needed.
Whether you or your loved one has been a member of this or any church, and whatever your faith or your doubts, you can turn to us and we will be there for you.

Approaching Death
Please don't hesitate to make contact if you feel you'd like to discuss what is happening to you or your loved one.
Fear of death is much worse than death itself, and our priests and trained ministers can give you reassurance and support.
We will pray for you - it is what we do.  Many people turn to prayer quite naturally when facing their own or another's death.

You might want us there just to unload your sorrow, or your fear or your anger. You might want to discuss your funeral arrangements. You might want to reassure yourself about support for those who are left.

As Christians, we don't believe that death is the end, though we find it difficult to be exact about what follows it.
A priest can sit with someone in their last days or hours, pray for them, reassure them of God's forgiveness, bless them, offer them a final communion if that has been part of their tradition. We often anoint the dying with sacred oil to prepare them for death - this is sometimes called the Last Rites. We generally find that those anointed receive a sense of peace, and this is very helpful to them and to relatives who are part of it. 

Time of Death
Please contact us when someone has died. We can and will continue to pray for them and for and with you.

We will be delighted to work with you to arrange the type of Funeral Service that's right for the occasion.  It might be a service in church or at the crematorium. Your or your loved one's priest can lead the service wherever it takes place, and we will then be tere to offer you support afterwards if you want it.

A church service gives the possibility for a fuller commemoration of a life and an opportunity to say goodbye and reflect on our own life journey. Whether you are expecting a handful of people or hundreds, we can work with you to make a fitting occasion. We have a lot of flexibility in music and readings. If the person who has died has been an active communicant in the church, or if that is very important to you, the funeral can take place in the context of a special Eucharist - a Requiem. You might prefer to have a Memorial Service.  Or it may be a combination of these.

Nettleham has a cemetery run by the Parish Council, so interment in the village is possible for residents.As a church, although our burial ground is now closed, we have an an area where we can bury cremated remains and you can have a stone to give a focus for your love in the years to come. If the church has meant a lot to the person who has died, there is a lovely tradition of bringing the body into church the evening before the funeral and saying some prayers and lighting candles. 

Not every undertaker assumes you might want the church or our ministers involved, so do insist if a Christian funeral is what you or your loved one wanted. 

After the funeral

We will continue to pray for the person who has died and for the family and loved ones who are dealing with bereavement.
We will also keep an eye out for signs that anyone is really struggling with life after bereavement.

If you'd like to have someone to spend a bit of time with you, talking, listening, sometimes praying, we have a team of specially trained pastoral care assistants.Often a regular, sympathetic ear from outside your immediate circle is really helpful. Contact the Parish Office by clicking here if you'd like someone to be in touch.

Each year we offer a couple of events in church specially for those who have recently lost loved ones. On or around 2 November we celebrate All Souls Day, a time when the whole church remembers all those who have died. We have services in the afternoon - a simple service of music and readings when we read out names and you can light a candle, and a Sung Eucharist in the evening where we remember those who have died with beautiful music and ceremony.

Just before Christmas, we have a Quiet Christmas - a service for those who want to celebrate Christmas but still have heavy hearts and want to avoid some of the jollity. We will write to you to give you details of both these events.

We remember the departed at our regular Eucharist on each first Friday of the month at 12.00. Do come along - if you know you are coming let us know and we can be sure to mention the person you are mourning in the service. There is a tradition of making this remembrance a month after the death - sometimes called a "Month's Mind Mass".

More help
Please contact the church office to arrange a visit or to find out about funerals.  Also do look at the Church of England funerals website for some very helpful information.